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vballdarin

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  1. In my opinion....if you're thinking about doing a CA with the sellers, it's their responsibility to pay the Realtor. The less involvement you have with the Realtor = the better. *(If the ad was placed by the Realtor, without clearly disclosing their brokerage in the advertising, they are in violation of the National Association of Realtors Code of Ethics) If the ad was placed by the seller who happens to have it listed...then it's ok. Now...back to our regularly scheduled program..... I know that most of the forum doesn't like to involve Realtors in any part of the transaction, but for me, I'm going to tell the sellers...."Here's the deal. I'm signing a Lease Purchase (CA) with you and if I find a tenant/buyer to take over the contract before your Realtor sells the house, then it's between you and your Realtor what you pay them." This is all a moot point if the Realtor won't agree to let the seller sell their own house as a Lease Purchase (Exclusive Right to Sell Contract). If the Realtor won't let them amend the bondage/slavery/monopoly of the contract, then I tell them to call me when their listing expires. But hey...that's just me. And now a word from our sponsor....... (This is where MC will chime in ) Darin
  2. Hello, my name is Darin and I had analysis paralysis. (Admitting you have a problem is the first step) As each person is obviously different...I wasn't concentrated enough on my marketing. I was doing a little of this...a little of that...tweak this...tweak that....and I got poor results. Surprise, surprise. I've finally put together a solid business plan which now makes me more credible in the sellers and buyers eyes, and it gives me more confidence that I know what I'm talking about and doing. (Probably the most important trait to have and it would have definitely helped me with the ladies earlier in life ) For me....I kinda got to the point where I couldn't learn anymore without seriously diving into the pool instead of just dipping my toes in. There are NO guarantees. But making mistakes is part of learning. I was brought up to think that making mistakes was a really bad thing. Looking back....I wish I had made more mistakes. I feel it would have given me a tougher skin and would have allowed me to gain self confidence a little faster. You also have to have a big enough "WHY". Some people teach that you should give 100% at something but always have a plan B to fall back on. Others say that if your going to sail the ship from the harbor to a new land of opportunity, once you reach shore....BURN THE SHIP TO THE GROUND so that there is no retreat (you are now forced to succeed....live or die). Either way...like MC said....TAKE ACTION. What's the worst thing someone can say to you? No? Who cares! If they don't want/need the information and knowledge you've worked hard to obtain & can provide.....it's their decision or loss. Keep paying the mortgage on an empty house...it's no skin off my back! Personally.....I was just tired of being sick and tired while not having the life I KNOW I can have. I've shoved off from the dock, I've trimmed the sails, and I have stuck the match to burn my ship to the ground. Darin
  3. I believe he just left to frolic in the waves on the Islands of Hawaii for the next 10 days. I'm sure he'll be able to give you her contact information after he gets back and tends to his sunburn. Darin
  4. Hey there MC.... I'm just saying that you and I usually stick to the tried and true ways of marketing. And that you have stated in the past that you don't get into all that techie stuff like Google voicemail texting, etc. No disrespect intended. I apologize if it came off as an insult. I just know that you usually poke fun at yourself when it comes to techie stuff. Darin
  5. Thanks Jason. I also just got off the phone with my sister who knows way more than I do. ***And this may be a help to all (with all due respect to MC) "techie challenged" people out there *** She uses a great website to learn just about anything: www.lynda.com! In their own words...."Learn the latest tools and techniques with access to 746 online courses and counting! Get unbiased, clear, and comprehensive training in 3D, audio, video, photography, graphic design, web and interactive design, business, and development from expert instructors, 24/7." I believe there is a charge to the site of $24/month but if you're really into that stuff, it could be helpful. (I'm going to mooch off my sister's account) Darin
  6. Hey yall...... First of all, let me explain my dilemma. I built my website using homestead.com while I had a Dell PC. My Dell then totally crashed so I decided to upgrade to an iMac. When I went back onto homestead.com to update my website, it's not compatible with Apple&iMac. I can't access pages that I created and can't edit very well. Has anyone out there run into this problem PC versus iMac? I've been looking into getting iWeb which is contained in iLife but many people have mentioned that iWeb is a very simple way to make a website if you just need a static site and it's not great for an e-commerece site where people need to fill in fields to give you their information. Any suggestions from all you Tech people out there would be greatly appreciated. Darin
  7. Well...as for me.....I'm just now recovering from my Dell Computer becoming toast. It's been a very educational winter (I don't have to Caddy too much at the course) and I've spent the time reading, learning, sleeping, and doing the things I don't have time to do from March-October. I now have my iMac and I'm getting ready to start a serious marketing effort within the next 2 weeks. I've pushed my chips into the middle of the table. I'm ALL IN. I've set my goals as to how many mailings, phone calls, emails and other stuff I'll be doing per month. Time for Daddy to start building the bank account. Darin
  8. Hehe. Apparently. A few short months after he purchased my manual, he was touting himself as the go-to guy for CA's. I have since had to ban him from here because it was brought to my attention that he was soliciting members here to buy his course and to sign up for his $3,000 mentoring program. Theater of the Absurd.As for Wendy's claim that he has done "hundreds" of these deals, I call shens. I'm not from Missouri, but I say "Show Me". And I suspect Wendy has never done so much as one, considering that in the past she was making the argument that CA's were brokering real estate without a license. No matter, pilot. It's 75 degrees today. Winter has finally left the Sunshine State. Think I'll go outside, have a Sam Adams or two, and check out the Golden Girls cruising the boardwalk. Well...I guess my "Spidey" senses were right after all. I had talked to another Naked member offline a while back and said that I wasn't sure of Joe and wasn't a big fan. As long as MC remains our fearless leader who protects us from the bad guys...all is right in the world. And thanks MC for sharing some of that weather with me as I just got back from bronzing myself out at the pool. Darin
  9. Happy Birthday Doug E. Fresh! Tequila shots for everyone!
  10. Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeease tell me that's not a replica R2-D2 out there in the front yard?!?!?!?
  11. Come on Bev! Give us guys a break! "Some of us" are trying to work around here. Some of us have fallen off the social radar completely and don't need to be reminded of what I'm missing out on (especially during all those Halloween Parties). Temptation is definitely NOT what I need right now. (((Thinking to myself)))....."Don't look directly at the picture. Don't look directly at the picture. Don't look directly at the picture." Focus......Focus.............Focus.....................Focus
  12. Hey there ya'll... This may have been asked before (and if it was...could you post the url for me to look at) but ON AVERAGE, how many calls and emails do all of you make per day or per week. Since I'm still working 7 days a week (for only 3-4 more weeks), I come home and make as many calls and emails to FRBO's from Craigslist as I can till it's time to go to sleep. I just wondered how my numbers/effeciency/effectiveness ranks with others on the forum. (and YES i'm sending out warm & fuzzy emails, not sounding needy, and being friendly with people I talk to on the phone as opposed to "MR. Business Professional Lease Purchase Investor Person") I realize that all you Full Timers have an advantage but I want to make sure that I'm doing all I can. I REFUSE to allow anyone to outwork me in ANYTHING I do. I want to take jvmccall up on his public challenge when my 7 day a week schedule lightens up over the next 5 months: http://www.naked-investor.com/forums/index...=7289&st=15 http://www.naked-investor.com/forums/index...?showtopic=7327 Thanks! Darin
  13. YES...YES...YES!!!! I'm finally ahead of Doug Pretorius in a L/O category!!! Spoke with a gentleman (i use that term very loosely) this morning, who, within 15 seconds told me.... "F you". The takeaway was that I laughed my butt off for a good 10 mintues before I could make another call. Darin "Spreadin' the Love From Sea to Shining Sea" Ray
  14. Happy Birthday BEV! Thanks for all your great posts and help. MC mentioned something to me last week about jumping out of a cake for you....Is it too late? Darin
  15. We just have to keep in mind that OUR time is valuable. This is something that I've been learning big-time lately. If they keep grilling you (as my last potential CA seller did for 1.5 hours) like it's a Senate Confirmation Hearing, then it's time to say to yourself..."if they are giving me this much grief NOW then is it going to get any better in the future when i have the deal?......Doubtful." And the fact that they almost made me miss my tee time was enough to cut the visit off short. (I shouldn't have stayed THAT long = my mistake) Then I did just as JR mentioned. I told them that I'M not feeling too confident with THEM actually needing to lease/sell their house. I then said that it's probably better if we both agree that this isn't the best time for ME to help THEM get their house leased/sold but maybe sometime in the future we can re-visit this solution. I'm getting more confident with the fact that I AM the one who has the knowledge and I AM the one extending MY hand to THEM with a solution. If they already have it in their mind that you're trying to "hustle" them....then very little of what i'm going to say from that point forward is going to change their mind. When I do feel like I'm not getting through to them (especially through email), I kinda take it to the next level by giving them the links to the MSNBC, FOX News, and quotes from Nationally recognized figures like the National Association of Realtors (what they consider "credible" sources) and then exit stage right. (Maybe that's a little too Passive/Agressive but it seems to work in my mind ) Being that I had analysis paralysis for sooooo long, i've accumulated tons of links, artilces, videos, etc. which I can use as backup to overcome objections. When ALL ELSE FAILS.................I bring out a giant blown up picture of Michael Carbonare and say to them....HE said it's legal! They may have won the battle....but I've won the war with the loads of information I throw at them which backs up my credibility. (I just don't waste too much energy on it) Hopefully, sometime in the near future, I'll just say, OK...no problem....Thanks for your time and consideration. Darin
  16. Hey everyone...Hope ya'll have a great end of summer Labor Day Holiday! I found this article/blog online and though I'd share it with everyone. I felt some bad habits creeping back into my life and this article came at a great time. Hope you too can take something from it. ____________________________________________________________________ Are you among the very small group of people that live up to their full potential? I think we are capable of much more than we are currently demonstrating and that at some level we all know what we are really capable of. The challenge is that all to often we stay with what's comfortable and we tend to live our lives in the ‘luke warm' water of mediocrity. To take your life, your business, your health or any other part of your life to the next level requires of you to step outside of what feels comfortable and what you are accustomed to. It's simple. If you keep doing what you've always done then your results will be what you've always gotten. With comfort zones we are, quite literally, imprisoned by what we believe we are or aren't and what we believe we can or can't do. When baby elephants are trained their back leg gets tied with a rope to a wooden peg. This confines the elephant to an area that is determined by the length of the rope. At first the baby elephant will try and free himself, but the rope proofs to be too strong for him and after a while he will give up trying. Even when the elephant grows up to a massive male that can weigh as much as 6 tones, he will remain confined to the area determined by the length of rope. Because he is ‘used' to it and he believes that he cannot go outside that constraints of his comfort zone, he will remain imprisoned by something that can not logically tie him down anymore. He will stay in his comfort zone even if it was defined when he was only a little baby and even if he can easily break free from it now. Human beings are very much the same, although it is a lot less obvious. We all have ‘limitations' that we've been conditioned to believe and now that we are capable of breaking free from them, we don't even attempt it. In fact, the possibility does not even cross our minds. When you believe something you create a sort of mental ‘blindness' to other possibilities because your experiences are filtered through your beliefs. The result is that you tend to stay with what you are comfortable with which is what you are certain about. Limitations only exist in our minds. It is only what we think we can or cannot do. Surely if someone else can do it, it is at least possible for me? Limitations are inside of us and not ‘stuff from the outside world that gets imposed on us - although events and circumstances often make us believe that. Your beliefs about what you can or cannot do, what you are or aren't, are only. Beliefs are very powerful thoughts because it's thoughts that we have a sense of certainty about and what we feel certain about is what we tend to act upon. Whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can't, either way you are right. You need to snap out of what you've been lead to believe about yourself and your own limitations. The only thing that prevents you from achieving anything is your belief about it and your belief is the ‘rope' that confines you to your comfort zone. Your beliefs are the leash that confines your future to your past. Our beliefs are almost always ‘installed' unconsciously. From early childhood and throughout life we are told what we are and what we are not. We ‘learn' what we can or cannot do until we accept these ideas as truth and learn to live with the ‘rope' around our lives. If you think you are ‘just this kind of person' or that you are shy or nervous or stupid or whatever limitation you've been lead to believe - just drop it! You are not your behavior and you are not your past. Start to question all the assumptions you have. Realize that everything that you think is impossible for you, is only a belief that it is impossible. If you are facing any challenges in any area of your life, then it is likely that you are stuck in a comfort zone. Comfort zones are what prevents you from growing, expanding and becoming more. Some people are so conditioned in their beliefs that they would even define themselves by their limitations. Apart from that, these ‘limitations' are often used as the convenient excuse for why their lives aren't working on the level that they ultimately desire. You must break out of this mould because it is what prevents you from taking the actions that will raise you from where you are to where you ultimately want to be. It's easy to talk about growth, improvement and advancement, but what it really comes down to is action. Only when you actually do it can you break out of the comfort zone. It's amazing how incredibly easy it really is when you just do it and act on what you always thought was difficult or even impossible. The challenge is that it is your old beliefs tend to keep you from taking these simple actions that can free you. Starts by changing your beliefs about what you can or cannot do and who you think you are. Realize that you get to choose these things - they are not a given. Then act on these new ideas about yourself and you will see that once you do a whole new world will open up in front of you - one that is even greater than you could ever have imagined. Here are some practical ideas for stepping outside your comfort zones and putting these ideas to use: - The affirmation ‘the world may predict, but I get to decide' is a very powerful statement and affirming it often will start to break up your old beliefs. These old beliefs confines you to what other people expect of you, and what they have told you ‘about you'. - Start to see yourself in a different light. Start to see yourself as what you really want to be, do and have. Start to change the mental image you have of yourself (self-image) and how you see yourself and your life. Realize that YOU are the only one that can create and maintain this image about YOU. - Explore the possibilities. Don't limit yourself to what you've always done or what you've always liked or disliked. At least go and check out what else is out there. It's always amazing how remarkably easy something is once you actually do. Possibilities will start to free you and open you up to what you are really capable of. - Question assumptions - especially the assumptions about yourself and what you are capable of. Things like I am too short, or too fat or too thin or too whatever are all assumptions. What you think you can or cannot do are only an assumption. Go and do it. At the very least you should try it - don't just assume. - Keep pushing yourself. It's natural for anybody to become accustomed to what they have. You must push yourself to keep stepping outside of this comfort zone for it is what makes you feel fulfilled. To experience true happiness you must consistently grow and expand and the only way you can do this is by consistently expanding what you are comfortable with. - ‘how do you do it' is what's probably on your mind right now. Well, the answer is simple: you just do it! There is no better way to explain this than to tell you to simply take action and do it. The way you stop smoking is to stop putting cigarettes in your mouth. The way to start exercising is by putting on your running shoes and to go outside and to run. Remember when you ‘don't feel like it' then it is because of your comfort zone and it is exactly then when you must step up and take action! ______________________________________________________________________________ Darin
  17. Very nice Bev! Besides having a large picture of MC as my screensaver, I can now have quicker access to the forum! Sweet! Darin
  18. CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm right behind you my brotha! I'm signing one up on Monday morning with a buyer already waiting for me to call him. ((((fingers crossed on this box of chocolates)))) I feel a competition coming on. Nice Job! Darin
  19. MC.... I like it! "Approve the agreement" does sound a little less intimidating and less "business-like". I'm doing better job on building relationships too. Anything I can do to eliminate the "big bad investor versus the helpless homeowner" theme definitely works for me. One of the things I've learned from this whole process, as well, is how to deal with criticism. Instead of getting defensive, I'm learning how to ignore it or to smile and say Thank you for your time. You've teached us all how to be a little more thick-skinned when dealing with buyers and sellers. Every NO! or unaccepted offer is getting me closer to my goals. Thanks! Darin
  20. I've been calling and emailing sellers trying to work a CoopAssignment deal. I have agreed on multiple occasions with multiple sellers to come over to their place to sign the paperwork so that we can start offering their house as a L/O. EVERY single time, they call me to reschedule, again, and again (each time I tell them that it's no problem) then they don't even return my calls when I try to follow up with them to set another time. Also, when emailing sellers I often get this: Them ~ "Yea....i'd be interested in selling the house as a rent2own, just have them come over and take a look at the house and tell me whether they like it or not." Me ~ "That's great news. But before they come over to look at your house, we have to sign a few papers which allow me to have them come over and look at it." Them ~ "You need not send me any paperwork unless the people agree to the terms and like the home / location, etc." Me ~ "Well...if we can agree on the terms you need to get, then it will be easier for them to see if this is a house they can feel comfortable affording. And.....unfortunately I'm not allowed to have them check out your house until we sign some papers. I wouldn't want anyone to accuse you and I of Brokering without a license. It doesn't look good on the ole' resume (or something funny to take the edge off)" Them ~ "YOU'RE A SCAM!" Me ~ I get this with the majority of people I talk to. I'm being more warm and fuzzy, I've cut back on the "being more professional" thing, and I've just been talking to them like a normal person trying to help them out. I even say, if they ask, that the papers I'm going to send over have been looked at by an Attorney so they are legit. I realize that these people are NOT truly motivated and I should move on, but geez..... is everyone else getting this on a regular basis? Thanks.
  21. Oh Captain, my Captain.... I'm already on it like white on rice.... I've tried contacting some sellers and, as of yet, many of their houses are above what the buyers that called me are able to pay (purchase price) or they aren't willing to sell/want unrealistic terms. I've recently had calls from potential tenant/buyers (which I have yet to run credit checks on, but mentioned they have some upfront money for a deal) in Little Rock, AR....Cape Coral, FL.....Orlando, FL....and one person actually from my area in SC. I'm trying NOT to be a errand boy/real estate agent and jump on any lookie-luu that calls me. These ones just seemed to be more complete in the initial questions that i've asked and had enough upfront money (so they say) to make it worth my effort to search for motivated FRBO's in those specific areas. I'm still focusing in my targeted markets for getting a deal/motivated FRBO FIRST then finding the tenant/buyer SECOND, but these ones popped up for me. I'm hitting up the calls and emails to sellers from Craigslist in these areas but if anyone knows of other investors in these areas that want to strike up a deal, I'm all ears. The more I put it out there....the more the possibility of a deal getting done. Thanks, Darin
  22. If there is anyone out there in the Cape Coral/N. Ft Myers area that has any houses that they are offering as a lease purchase, shoot me an email and i'll fill you in on the particulars. Thanks, Darin
  23. Happy Birthday Man! Thanks for all your help, information, and support! Darin
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